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October 28, 2005

When In Doubt, Go Out for Coffee

Those of us who are parked in front of a computer all day long need a few things. This week I’d like to dedicate to honoring the pieces of life that get lost due to the frantic, day to day computer shuffle.

Here’s what I find I need after an intense schedule of working hard, indoors, all day long at my computer:

1)     Get the heck out of there! Since I live in the woods, many miles from the nearest city (and coffee bar) it takes a dedicated day per week to break up the schedule. So now I spend Fridays in

Burlington

,

VT

, my nearest city.

2)     Write in a coffee bar. Boy, it works like a charm! I find I can have a really productive worktime if I’m not at my desk. (Ironic, isn’t it?) I find myself at Speeder & Earl’s in 

Burlington

where they have great coffee, nice herb tea, and the all important Internet connection. I write like a dream!

3)     Do a few hours of hot yoga. This cleans me out, relaxes me, and puts me back together like nothing else. Thank you, Bikram! You can learn more about hot yoga through practices like Bikram Yoga and Baron Baptiste yoga. Both are awesome! I’m gaining SO MUCH from my weekly sweat-a-thon. (Did I mention the room gets heated to 104 degrees Farenheit?)

4)     Lying on my hands. OK, I have to admit I hate this – but I know it’s really good for me. One of the somewhat torturous poses we do in Bikrams is to lie on our bellies on top of our arms, with our palms down. The goal is to get your arms completely under you – which is hard if you work at a keyboard all day long. But this pose gently re-stretches you as you attempt to get back in flexible alignment. (Take it easy if you try this at home.) I can barely get my arms under me at all!

5)     Enforced fun. Like a good book! I make a point on my Fridays away from home to bring along some juicy reading. Right now I’m digging into Michael Gerber’s e-Myth Mastery. Awesome!

Got other ideas about ways to improve home office life – your own systems of relief?  Please post a comment and let’s hear ‘em?!

October 19, 2005

Sources for Desktop Photos if you Don’t Have One

Here’s a list I’ve kept of places to find cheap or free digital photos that come royalty-free. You can use these as your calming screen saver, mouse pad, desk top, etc.. For aren’t we all a little tired of good old Window’s sand dunes, or rolling green hills.

Adirondack Life Photo Gallery – Great shots from my neck of the woods!

Google Images - Great pictures of all kinds of stuff

Free Digital Stock Photos -
Beautiful shots of flowers; lots of different varieties. Plus many other subjects.

FreePhoto.com - Big variety of shots that are free if not used commercially.

iStockPhoto.com

Each shot costs $1, and the quality’s better than most free photo sites.

MSN Image Library

Go to www.msn.com and click on Images to do a search. Lots of good stuff, plus free software that organizes your downloads.

Got other sources? Please leave a comment so we can build this list. Thanks!

A Dream I Had Last Night

What better place than my new Joy blog to post about a dream I woke up pondering this AM? As many of you know, I’m in the process of really turning up the heat on both of my websites. Just Friday I talked to a new literary agent about getting How Much Joy Can You Stand? back in print, with a new slant – necessary to attract the right publisher.

Then I woke up this AM with images of building stove tops with my creative partner, Ryan Brown. (Ryan and I will be leading East and West Coast tours in 2006 on how to use technology to come out of hiding and find the people who need your work.) My husband, Larry Barns, was teaching us how to do this. (Larry has had a major career as a photographer in NYC, made and wisely managed good money and commanded his niche – all with a minimum of stress.) Specifically, he was teaching us how to install heat tiles that would allow things to become manageable, even when scalding hot.

This makes me think the Joy work is meant to merge with my Get Known Now work, specifically through a possible republication of the How Much Joy  book. I see now that the new edition could discuss what we all struggle with most right now: how to grow bigger and be of greater use in the world WITHOUT landing in overwhelm. That’s the biggest fear I see among all the people I coach.

Interesting …..

October 18, 2005

How to Have a Creative Office

This week, I’m focusing on that place most of spend hours and hours – the office. Recently, I’ve been thinking of my office as a sacred place. I’ve even burned candles and incense, and played meditative music as I work. The result is that I feel much more connected to my soul – and my life purpose -- as I do.

So here are some suggestions on how to customize your computer, so it, too, can nurture your creative spirit.

1. Put your Soul Purpose, the day's affirmation, or any important message on your screen saver. Most screensaver software has a text option that allows you to type in a phrase that gets repeated against a colored or black background. It's nice way to be reminded of what's really important whenever you casually glance at your screen. Don’t know your Soul Purpose? Check out my CD on the topic.

2. Use somebody else's inspiring screensaver or desktop photo.
You can find all kinds of good examples you can download from the Top-10 Screensaver Directory. This is a comprehensive list of many screensaver sites (animals! Christmas!) - many of which have downloadable free goodies.

3. Clean up e-mail clutter. Outlook Express and other popular e-mail programs have the capacity to create files for your already read email. This means you can empty out your in-box every time you check it, thus eliminating a lot of the clutter that drains your energy. You can also create file folders that establish business goals for yourself, helping you to visualize their reality in your life. Examples might be folders for Dream Financing, New Clients, Raw Support, Dream Resources, and Hot Offers. (I especially like the 'Raw Support' option, as this file is where you stash your unsolicited raves and supportive comments from friends to pull out when you're feeling low.)

4. Create a mouse pad with emotional significance. Think about how many times per day you look at or use your mouse pad. If your mouse pad is a dreary, beaten up affair, or has the logo of the local computer repair place on it, toss it. Replace it with a custom-made mouse pad bearing a photograph of something inspiring -- a quote, or the photograph of a hero in your field. These can be inexpensively made at copy shops like Kinko's and photography stores. Consider using the name and logo of the company you want to start, or your Soul Purpose, or a nature image that strokes your soul.

5. Use motivational software. Imagine a CD that plays gentle soul-soothing music, supplies pictures from nature on demand, and then pops up every so often to remind you of your goals and your dreams, and their divine purpose. I like Paul Bauer's Dream Minder software. It provides a soul-enriching 'space' (and great music!) on your computer, which you can run to whenever you need a little soothing. But even better, it's a motivator that checks in with you now and then (you determine the frequency) to make sure you haven't lost track of your creative endeavors. Undoubtedly other software exists that gets the same job done, but perhaps not so beautifully.

Camera_vignette_055 6. Create an inspiring desktop. Bring nature to your desktop ... or big city skylines, or just about anything you can think of. Or why not make it something you'd like to create in your life? Unlike a screen saver, you get to look at this image pretty much all day long. That always helps when it comes to visualizing and manifesting, and creating certain emotional states. Here's what I have on my desktop: a picture of my family at

Squibnocket

Beach

in

Martha's Vineyard

, where my husband and I spent our honeymoon.

Every time I look at it, I get an inward sigh of calm. What are your grounding images and ideas for the office?

October 13, 2005

The Value of Loosening Up

Recently, while coaching one of my Self-Help Author’s Crash Course students, I had a revelation. I saw in an instant just how loose and relaxed you have to be in order to become a successful creative business person. Sure, those other business types, the MBA’s, stock market jocks, and corporate biggies can plan and strategize all they want. When they set off to pursue a dream, they make marketing plans and business plans … and they stick to them. They’re amazingly mature and disciplined that way.

But those of us who are artists tend to work by a different set of rules. We bend and flow with our ideas. Impulses and ideas come charging in, riding the steed of inspiration, and we find ourselves changing projects mid-stream or doing fifteen things at once – all of them with sloppy gusto. And then there’s tax time, or inventory time, or marketing time, and we find ourselves scratching our heads in overwhelm.

This is the difference between the creative businessperson and the regular businessperson. If you are an artist of some kind you know what I’m talking about. The part of your brain ordinarily reserved for business has the attention span of a two-year old, often to your detriment. Yet, all is not lost. There are ways to actually be a businesslike creative person – (I wrote about this in the last Joy Letter) -- and one of the keys is learning to relax about it.

I don’t mean relax, as in toss all of your important papers into a shoe box and forget about them. Yes, you do need to be responsible about business and handle the basics. I mean relax, as in make a loose creative business plan that allows for change as your concept opens up and develops. It helps to allow yourself to not know from time to time just what to do next. You want to create a plan that acts not as a strict set of guidelines, but that ebbs and flows along the uncertain path of your dream, guiding you when necessary and retreating when unneeded. (There is a chapter on how to do this in my new book, Living Your Joy.)

For instance, the self-help author I was coaching felt vexed by the fact that he’d spent the last year (and untold thousands of dollars) developing a corporate coaching niche on the Web, only to find out he had a completely unrelated self-help book to write for an unrelated audience. Try as he might, he couldn’t figure out how to reconcile the two. How could he justify all the consulting he received if he just walked away from his site, even though it wasn’t as much of a passion as he thought it would be? And how could he build another platform for his practice from this strange new book project? What was he supposed to do next?

The problem was that he was trying to figure out the path without letting it unfold first. He was assuming that the business plan was correct, as opposed to his all-critical radar and instincts. He was forgetting that great, old golden rule of creating: Go with your gut.

So why do you need to listen to the wisdom of your gut if you’re a creative type? Because this is how you make choices -- out of a combination of sensitivity, emotions and intuition, rather than logic and facts. This access to your emotions is what enriches your work, and makes it so necessary for the rest of the public to respond to. Take away an artist’s emotional infrastructure, and you have no art left, basically.

So this why sometimes the greater wisdom to building your business is to relax, stand back, and watch what unfolds. You don’t necessarily have to know how everything is going to turn out, nor can you. Perhaps the result won’t be one in your mental scripts of how things should turn out. You may even lose money or clients or … god forbid… your business. But you will learn and if you stick with it, you will forge a stronger commitment to accomplishing your dream, this time all the wiser. And you will forgive yourself, because all truly artful businesses are built on successions of mistakes.

Much of the conventional business world operates of formulas – ROI’s and conversion rates, and such. And a working awareness of these tools is certainly valuable to the creative business owner. But the real key to success for creative business people is understanding when to let go of the formulas. Ultimately, it’s a balancing act we’re required to perform. And that’s why relaxing and listening to your gut are the most important things you can do.

October 08, 2005

Hot Yoga: Something to Clean Your Soul

OK, I’m a new girl. I just went to a hot yoga class, and sweated buckets which I stretched and released, in yoga pose after yoga pose. And boy … am I happy!

I started doing yoga back in 1985, after a boyfriend shipped me out to a yoga retreat for a week. I came back to find he’d taken up with someone else, and amazingly I wasn’t even that disturbed. I had dialed down to some kind of potent, baseline spiritual rightness … and boy, I just felt too good to get cranked up about anything.

So I’ve been doing yoga ever since – and even met my dear husband, Larry Barns, in a subsequent yoga class in … 1985!

Now I’ve finally committed to hot yoga, which is yoga done in a room that’s anywhere from 90-100 degrees F. Which sounds downright awful but is actually pretty delicious.

Bikram’s Yoga is the type most widely spread around the US (and overseas) which uses this technique. Though I recently did a wonderful class in Boston at a studio called Baron Baptiste. Baptiste’s yoga was more like a standard Iyengar class set at 90 degrees. Bikram’s has their own set of stretches, some of which I’m less used to. But this is my local hot class, so I’ve now set aside Fridays as my regular hot yoga day.

Each time I do one of these classes, I come out feeling like I’ve taken a three day vacation. My limbs are light and limber, my body feels utterly relaxed, and I’ve sweated so much I feel completely clean. It’s sort of like taking a really long hot shower, but with stretching.

You might want to try it. I have to believe it helps my creative, intuitive flow.

October 07, 2005

An Important Question to Ask Yourself

So, what would you rather be doing … if you could do virtually anything in the world? If you could have all the money, connections, love affairs, opportunities – if you had total control of every circumstance … what would you be doing right now?

Someone asked my father, John Falter, who was a painter, that question and he replied, ‘I’d like to be standing at my easel, painting something great.’

The other day I asked my creative partner, Ryan, that question and he said the same thing; “I’d like to be sitting at my own baby grand, composing.”

For me … I’d like to be doing this. Or possibly performing a show I created.

Both would do me just fine. How about you?

October 06, 2005

Finding Spirit First Thing in the Morning

You know what I love? Waking up with guided ideas; thoughts and feelings that have the ring of soft clarity to them, that tell me they’re ideas from Spirit. Mmmmm… I love that.

And it happens just about every morning, which makes me keep a pad and an illuminated pen next to the bed. (I wake up in the dark usually, or just in time for another Adirondack sunrise over Lake Champlain.)

These ideas present themselves as clear, quiet solutions to puzzles on my mind. Or as simple bright ideas that will help my business, or someone in particular. And they just start to flow as soon as I open my eyes.

I love them … and I do my best to act on them every day.

What are your waking thoughts?

October 05, 2005

How to Juggle More Than One Passion

Anyone who knows my work knows there’s lot of it … and it takes a variety of forms. I’m have two different, busy websites, an active coaching practice, two ezines and now two blogs, speaking gigs … and an on-going performance project in which I sing and act. Oh yeah, I have two kids aged 11 and 15 and a husband in the mix, too.

So I’m often asked how I manage so many diverse interests and occupations – and how I keep them all running smoothly.

Well, I gave up ‘smoothly’ a long time ago. And I always think things should be smoother than they are … but they aren’t. So I’ve come to accept, very gradually and over time, that smooth is an illusion.

Bottom line is that I cling to my spiritual guidance like a fat, heavy life rope that’s going to keep me grounded and out of harm’s way always. And, best of all, guide me through each step of the way.

And I have extraordinary support. Lorraine Carol keeps my customer service and business running smoothly. My creative partner, Ryan Brown, manages my websites, and co-creates our performance project and now some of my platform building work (stay tuned for an announcement about a possible Get Known Now tour we’re planning.) And my husband, Larry, pats me on the shoulder when I’m crumpled into the couch at 11PM, and tells me I can do it.

And I just keep running back to Spirit.

For instance, this blog came into being some time ago, but I just didn’t have the gut-level nod to put it into action yet. Not until yesterday when I was sitting in a café full of students in Boston, contemplating a brand new, empty notebook, and I found myself making a list of blog entries to put right here.

So here we are… and things feel pretty smooth at the moment. Which is lovely.

Welcome to my world. I hope you find succour here.

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