So, here's a loaded question: How supportable are you?
In order to get support, you have to be willing to receive it, which could require a shift in your thinking. Is it tough to ask for help? Do you assume you have to bear the burden alone? Or are you already basking in the glow of friendly support.
Answer the questions below and see how supportable you really are.
1. The idea of creating a support group seems:
a) impossible
b) unlikely (who would I ask?)
c) pretty doable, but only if it was a really perfect, hand-picked group of personal friends
d) like an idea I should act on soon
2. I've been through therapy, workshops, trainings, retreats, and read countless self-help books ...
a) and not one of them has had the answer I'm looking for!
b) so why is my life only marginally better?
c) I'm wiser, but I think I should be further along
d) I've learned how to give myself a pat on the back when I need one
3. My overall view of life is:
a) long, hard, and then you die
b) it's never going to be quite good enough
c) a work in progress
d) a long-term adventure
4. I know what makes me happy ...
a) except that it never happens
b) some of the time, but then I forget
c) and those things do occur occasionally
d) and I go out of my way to make those things happen
5. If a friend offered you a good idea on how to quit the job you hate and get a better one, you would
a) half-listen (she probably doesn't know what she's talking about)
b) listen (she could be right, but ... do I really want to do what she's suggesting?)
c) take notes, but then lose them
d) take those actions within a few days
6. People offer me advice, but ...
a) nobody else knows the 'real' me, and what I need
b) sometimes their ideas are okay, but not that often
c) I could follow their advice ... but I just don't
d) I listen, and sometimes I do what they suggest if it seems right
7. The biggest reason I don't pursue my dream is that
a) I could never pull it off, so why bother?
b) I'm just too darn busy to get to it
c) sometimes it seems like a good idea, but other times it doesn't
d) I'm afraid
8. If I were to die tomorrow,
a) I'd die feeling like a failure
b) I'd wish I'd have done more to get what I want in life
c) I'd be grateful for the people who encouraged me, but I'd feel I disappointed them
d) I'd have a sense of satisfaction about my life
If most of your answers were in the a, b, or c camp, chances are you are more resistant to getting support than you think. Now is the time to empty your head of all the beliefs that hold you back, and uncover your fear. Is anything bugging you about success? What could happen if you were to get support … and then achieve your dream? How might your life change? Once you get clear on this, it's time line up your reinforcements!
If you answered mostly d to the questions above, you may already have adequate support in your life. In fact, you may be ready for more. Either way, you've got the right attitude and are no stranger to support.
How'd you do?
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